When you do scary things, you overcome the fear of doing what-ever it is you are scared to
do, so you are training your mind to overcome your fear.
If you aren’t scared by any of the things you are doing each day,
then you are photocopying each day that you normally live, over and over and over again.
Your goal each day should be to do something scary all the time, every day.
So put that scary thing you are going to do in your diary, so you constantly conquer all your fears.
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
–Nelson Mandela
Living a day when you have done something really scary and overcome fear, is so so so rewarding, you will feel amazing,
because that is when you have most likely achieved a dream or desire.
By conquering your fears you’re training your brain and
you have stepped outside the boundary of what is “normal” to you and done
what ever it is you desired, but were too scared previously to do!
When you do something that has previously scared you, this is when change happens,
and it happens on a subconscious level too
because you step outside the “normal” zone.
Your subconscious has to recognise that you have achieved that goal, and that it was the subconscious that was trying to make you play small and you have conquered it.
You have conquered the fear. Training the brain to conquer fear is the key to growth.
The more you conquer your fears, the easier it will get each time you try new things.
When you don’t do anything that is scary,
you play small,
and this is what you are teaching yourself to be normal,
so your behaviour becomes the habit of playing small.
That is who you are and that is who you will always be.
You teach yourself that it is ok to play small
and not achieve your goals and dreams
because that is what you do.
That is who you are.
So ask yourself, is this ordinary person who I want to be,
or do I want to train your brain and be extraordinary?
Your behaviour when you don’t stretch beyond the fear and you play small,
behaves like a broken record on repeat ….
It goes round and round and round and round …….
It’s ok to play small
It’s ok to play small
It’s ok to play small
It’s ok to be small
It’s ok to be small
STOP!!!!
YOU DON’T REALLY WANT TO PLAY SMALL!!!!!
That is not what we do, it’s not what entrepreneurs do, they want to play big,
They want to be successful, they want to have it all.
They don’t want someone telling them they can’t do that!
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to
conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
–Dale Carnegie
How do you train your brain to overcome fear?
The fear of reaching that goal, the fear of achieving that target,
the fear of talking to people and getting that sale, or what ever it is you want to do?
It is really simple, not hard at all, or so it sounds, but it takes courage!
To train your brain to get these achievements,
we have to consistently play big and step outside our comfort zone
AND we have to say YES – I’LL DO THAT!
We have to say YES to everything that is presented to us, and DO it.
No matter how hard it is, or how scary it might feel to us,
we have to be consistently saying yes and doing new scary things.
We have to train our brains that we are YES people and have a can-do attitude.
That means we have to be doing scary things all the time
and being scared, yet still doing the actions is really good.
I can promise you, it might call for all your courage to do these scary things, then feeling the fear and doing it anyway will be your reward.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop
to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I
can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot
do.”
–Eleanor Roosevelt
The reasons you feel free are probably similar to me. Most of my fear comes from a fear of judgement.
If you guys think I like making promotional video’s
you have to be kidding yourself, but I know it has to be done.
I absolutely hate it!!! I know I have to overcome the fear in my mind.
I am scared that you are going to hate what I say,
I am scared that you are going to pick on the way I look and
I am scared that you are going to give me the most shocking feedback possible.
I am scared of your opinions and
all these excuses not to do videos is the way my subconscious
is trying to keep me safe and stop me from doing what I know I need to do
So my subconscious me is screaming at me to STOP,
don’t do this!
I want to be safe! I don’t want to be judged by you. But I do it never the less!
Now I have had to ask myself the most honest brutalist truth.
How can I be a successful productivity strategist or mentor?
How can I run Goal Achiever Sessions or Mastermind groups, Retreats
or give you ideas and suggest alternatives for you to do in your business,
when I can’t get out of my own way, when I can’t share my knowledge with you and I can’t do the hard stuff???
I honestly don’t want to be seen, I don’t like being judged by others and I absolutely like hiding behind the curtains so I’m not seen, but here I am, I have owned the fear, I acknowledge it existed.
The more I do this and I am putting myself out there, the easier it is to actually do the fearful thing.
I am feeling the fear but doing it anyway,
so I can share my message to all of you,
so hopefully you can over come your fear and you can follow your dreams
to become the most successful you that is possible.
“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we
handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience
adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.”
–Judy Blume
If we really want to overcome our fears and retrain our brains,
we have to be even more brutally honest with ourselves
because this is the only way we are ever going to over come our fears.
We can always find really good reasons which are really excuses,
so we have to ask ourselves are these legit reasons,
is it in our best interest not to do this, is it really unsafe?
Because if we don’t ask these questions, our subconscious will find a way around the fear
and start putting up reasonable objections,
and these objections can be the most logical excuses hidden in amazing reasoning
as to why we can’t do things. the fear will win and end up ruling our lives.
We have to ask ourselves does our refusal or fear of doing something have merit
or is it just our subconscious trying to keep us safe?
“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.’
–Marie Curie
News alert!!!!
We can’t have belief in ourselves if we don’t have doubt first.
So admire the fear but honour the action to overcome the fear.
Say YES, I’ll do that and go for it!
Because this is where our personal growth comes from, it is how we expand as human beings and live our best possible life.
So train your mind to feel all the fear, but be determined to overcome fear anyway!!!!
