Intentions aren’t enough.  How do we achieve our goals?

Our intentions are always good, they come from wanting the best for ourselves, but sometimes we struggle to achieve them, they just don’t happen and we feel like failures, why does this happen to us when we really do want the best for us?  Or do we? The intentions are good, we now need to dig deeper to find the Power of Intention.

Classic Intention Mistakes

On New Years Eve and January 1 we seem to be full of enthusiasm, we set an intention for our goals and what we will change and what we will do during this new year.  Oh how easy it all seems, the words just seem to flow as we say we will do X, Y, and Z.

Then January 2 comes, the desire for the intention is still there, but we have already broken our promises to start our diet, not drink or do something else.  We tell ourselves that our goals are still strong, but we will start on Monday!  You know the story, we have all told ourselves this.

February 1 comes and goes, we are screwed, our good intentions and the goals we have so desperately wanted to achieve have been forgotten.

Are your intentions solid?  Are they realistically?  Is this goal and intention what we want or what we really need to live a happy life? 


“Why do New Years Resolutions fail? Mainly, because they are only a statement, or what we wish for in the coming year. There are usually no action plans, no deadlines, no backup plans. Sometimes they are unrealistic resolutions, with no other thought or plans beside the statement.”

Catherine Pulsifer, New Years Achievements Failure Quotes

Redirecting the Power of Intention

We have set ourselves up for failure, it was never going to happen and we start to feel guilty because our word apparently means nothing.  Our intentions were good, they were honest and admirable, our goals certainly within our grasp, but let’s be honest with ourselves, we are never going to succeed without:

  1. tapping into the knowledge of our needs, what is it we really need?
  2. our emotions are our driver and they are essential for us to take action, without them we would do nothing.
  3. our actions are what makes the change, they include our desire, commitment, and direction
  4. a good plan of attack outlining where we will start and finish and how to get there.
  5. A support systems must be in place too, it is essential for setting and reaching targets.

Best tool to Harness Intentions​Queen Boudicea harnessing her intentions

Our Life Balance Wheel will be a great detector and tool for us to use, letting us know the happiness levels in the different areas of our life indicating what needs change.There is no need to be discouraged by the apparent lives of others. The reality that is actually lived by those people we admire, our idols, that we want to emulate is often very different behind the scenes. Our hero’s have probably failed more times than they have succeeded, they may have tried many different projects before that haven’t worked for various different reasons and they haven’t been afraid to move on and try something new.

“The key to success in any area of life is to first know and master the area of focus.”
― Archibald Marwizi, Making Success Deliberate

Power Boosters for Intentions

While these successful people have worked hard, followed practices and procedures, had support systems in place and people behind them supporting them, they are usually fearless in changing directions when needed and most importantly they have been determined to be focused to ensure their success. It is the desire to meet their needs that creates an emotion that is the driver for action that has made our successful idols succeed, it is the emotions what keeps the actions happening to keep them moving forward to achieve their dreams.

A successful person puts procedures and processes in place to make sure what needs to happen actually happens.  They asses what has gone before and tweak their future actions to improve the processes they take forthcoming.

Your daily actions is what drives your end results and success, by using a good planner to realise your dreams and goals, then by incorporating all the things you need to do each day, then reviewing your days at the end of the week, month, year and adjusting them will keep you focused you are sure to get the results you set out to.

A good planner, a coach or mentor will consistently work with you to realise your goals and desires, they helps you realise your dreams and aspirations, they help you look at your life as a whole so you can have balance in all areas of your life while working towards achieving your dreams.

Use a diary every day to record all your wins for the day, review your week and make any changes necessary to reach your goals and don’t be afraid to change your goals as you work through your year, it is amazing what reflections shows us.  What you set out to achieve at the beginning of the year may not be what you achieve at the end, but by using a diary you will be happy and satisfied with your direction and achievements because you will reach targets and see your growth.

“You have the power to change the world, use it to make a difference.” unknown

Being a success in life looks different to everyone, but what it takes to be a success is the same for everyone as it takes a desire or emotion to have a vision, you set an intention, take consistent actions and be determination to achieve the dream and goals you have set, it just doesn’t happen on its own. Harness the Power of your Intentions and you will be well on your way..

I’m Lorene Roberts, a Holistic Counselor, Root Cause Therapist, trauma-informed advocate, and transformation mentor. As the author of “Crazy Stupid Love,” I’m passionate about helping individuals overcome trauma and rediscover themselves. Drawing from my personal experiences with trauma and abuse, I’ve gained a deep understanding of their profound impact on our bodies and minds.

Through extensive studies, I’ve acquired valuable tools and insights that can help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Together, we can confront the past, harness the right tools, and cultivate the mindset and support needed for success in life. Join me on a journey of healing, self-discovery, and positive change.


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